Why is being needy unattractive

Give each place say 3 to 6 months to get used to. Share Facebook. Why is being desperate so unattractive? Add Opinion. I think clingyness in a guy is kinda flattering - only because I crave that degree of affection.

As far as your rant regarding why this is expected of men and this is expected of women - it's just human nature on top of emphasized ideals of our observed natures within society.

That's it. Your over thinking every little aspect of your nature in respects to the idealized nature - which is a self destructive idea. All that matters is what works for your life.

There is not a man alive who is the perfect man. It's more so how you handle these aspects of yourself and sculpt your reality that will make them work in your favor or against you. Quit stressin. The same advice your getting about waiting for a person and taking a break - is the same exact advice several women in your position have received on here.

Lol - just so you know mr. Quit blaming everything else - no one's got it perfect due to their sex or race or whatever. But that's my burden to bare. The grass ain't greener on the other side, as much as you like to believe it is. So - You can either keep complaining about the dead brown grass on your side of the hill - or get the water hose and fertilizer then get to work.

I'd say you think the world is so against you here - but your mainly against yourself. Our biggest demon is that very person we see in the mirror so Is this still revelant? Show All Show Less. Xper 7. It's okay and natural for a person to have those kinds of feelings at some point, but what is undesirable is when those feelings get out of control.

There is a line between being desperate and being persistent. I think, when a person acts desperate, his or her attempts to get what they want get out of control. A guy wants a girl to date him so badly, he says that if he can't have her, no one can.

Desperate and downright dangerous. A guy wants a girl to date him so badly, he keeps talking to her and putting his best foot forward, even though she hasn't warmed up yet. People have needs, and it's right to pursue them. What makes someone needy is when they pursue wants as if they are needs.

It's like when a child throws a temper tantrum because it wants a cookie and is denied it as opposed to a child who is starving and must have food. As far as being clingy goes, everyone needs space.

Put men and women in a sealed room. The game is to pair up with the highest ranked person of the opposite sex that you can. Pretty much immediately, any nines and tens are surrounded by huge crowds vying for their attention. If the crowds flock towards you, you know your score must be pretty damn good. If strangers flee as you approach — not so much. People will lower their expectations when rebuffed, and raise them when surrounded.

And the clue to your attractiveness is how needy other people act around you. Conversely, if someone is aloof with their affections, they probably think they can do better. He feels good about his life and satisfied with the things in it. This doesn't mean that he doesn't desire things in his life that are not there, but it does mean that he doesn't require anything or anyone to feel whole and satisfied.

How appealing do you think that is to a woman? A person who feels needy sends off a message of being disadvantaged or deprived in life. They feel as though they are lacking something personally, so they talk, act, and move around in a negative way. It is depressing to feel like your life is lacking stuff! And it is even more depressing to be around someone who feels like they are always getting the short end of the stick. You've probably been around someone who sucks the positive feelings right out of you.

You can literally be full of optimism before you get together with them, and then be miserable a few moments after you are in their presence. That is what being around a depressing, victim-like person will do to you. No woman wants to surround herself with a guy who puts himself down, complains about his life, and is never truly happy.

Women are looking for a man to brighten up their life and make it better, not bring it down to a depressing, negative level. No woman is attracted to a man who exhausts her from neediness. The only fix for a needy person is constant attention and praise from others. I realize that it may be exhausting for a needy person to constantly seek this attention and praise, but it is even more exhausting for someone who has to give it. It is important to know that the only thing that can fill the void a needy person has is a change in mindset.

How does this apply to attracting women? Well, the problem is that a guy who has not started to change their mindset has that void in them, and that hole needs to be filled. They try to fill the hole by getting validation from women, but the truth is that the hole is a bottomless pit that can never be truly filled by anyone but them. So, the women trying to fill the hole has a 7-day work week ahead of her until the needy guy decides to fill his own hole.

Neediness is exhausting! And a man who makes a woman exhausted in a bad way is not attractive. There is not one woman out there who has the ability to give you constant attention and praise!