By providing food you are not only giving a meal to the family, but also giving them comfort and care during a time of grief. It is not typical for families to directly accept cash donations. When making the donation, make sure to indicate who the contribution is honoring. Be sure to let the organization know if you wish to be anonymous with your gift. Attending a funeral gives you the opportunity to show your support to family and friends who are heartbroken. However, your presence should not end when the ceremony does.
Grieving is a process and the road to healing does not have a timeline. Try to stay in touch with the bereaved weeks or even months after the farewell service. After they have had time to cope alone they may wish to have someone there for them at a later time. If possible, attempt to find time to meet up and talk, or if you cannot be there in person, try to check in with a phone call. A small sign of someone caring can mean the world to a loved one who has experienced a loss.
If you are in doubt as to what to do at a funeral, take your cues from the family. A funeral is generally a solemn occasion, but at times the family will want to evoke a celebratory mood. You must be logged in to post a comment. No Comments. Share Share Tweet Share Pin. Love 0. Be on Time Funerals start on time, so arriving a little early is important. Express Your Sympathy It can be difficult to find the words to comfort those who are suffering a loss.
Dress Appropriately Mourning attire has drastically evolved over the years. Use Technology Sparingly The twenty-first century funeral looks much different than it did ten years ago. Provide a Meal Friends often make an effort to convey their sympathy to the family by providing the gift of precooked meals.
The bosses don't know which staff he was friends with so they do need to let everyone know about arrangements. If the services are during work hours you could volunteer to cover for other staff to attend. The notification doesn't mean that attending the funeral is compulsory. It's simply to let people who knew the colleague better and perhaps have been more affected by his death the details. They may choose to attend, or maybe send flowers to the funeral home instead.
No need to go. If there is a place where people are posting their condolences, post a quick one liner. I would go. Some workplaces become like work family. If this person spent his life working there it is a good thing to see him off.
Your coworkers will be there, and it is a good time to bond, or at least hold up one fiftieth of the social fabric that unites in common humanity. Sometimes an event like this is a beginning, and it is definitely a closing of ranks, and mutually respectful act to attend such an event.
You definitely don't have to go, but it's fine to go if you want to. Going to a funeral is always a nice thing to do, and sometimes people think that they need to justify having a close enough relationship to the deceased to merit being there. People usually appreciate having a good turnout at the funeral of someone they care about, and you're doing a nice thing if you go to the funeral of a co-worker or other acquaintance.
Funerals are for the living. If someone you are close with at work is feeling this coworker's loss keenly, then it would be entirely appropriate to attend, it would show support for THAT person. But you definitely have no obligation to attend. It wouldn't be weird to go, and it wouldn't be weird not to go, unless the CEO is shutting down the office for the morning or something else that makes it seem much more like the entire office is attending.
It is never wrong to go to a funeral, but it doesn't sound like it would be expected in this case. I probably wouldn't go. If he was with the office his entire life, I would definitely go to the funeral. You're standing up not for yourself, but for the many colleagues he may have interacted with over the years, and the family usually feels good about it. However, if you want to attend, I'm sure your presence would be welcomed, even if you just briefly checked in and out. In my experience, nobody wants a small funeral.
Neither the recently deceased, nor the grieving family. Even if you are not particularly affected, perhaps one of your good work buddies is, and they might like to have a calm friendly acquaintance there too. Finally, if you've really never been to a funeral, it might be kind of a good learning experience to show up and see how they go before you have to go to one that is devastating for you personally.
That may sound crass, but I do mean it in the best way. Death comes for us all, and particularly in the modern secular USA, a lot of us have very little familiarity with it right up until it hits staggeringly close, and that I think makes grieving even worse. A friend was just telling me that a good number of attendees at his parents' funerals were waitstaff from restaurants where they were regulars.
Think decades of twice-weekly IHOP dinners. This was a long time ago and you could tell that it still meant something to him, all these years later, that those folks showed up. So if your he really didn't have much going on outside the office it would be a nice thing if some coworkers showed up. Also, remember the immortal words of Yogi Berra: if you don't go to other people's funerals, they won't go to yours.
I would go because the funeral isn't for him, it's for his family. If he worked there his entire life, it will comfort his family to know that so many people cared enough to go to his funeral.
Work relationships vary widely. Some co-workers are close associates at work and spend free time together outside of the office. Some co-workers may have a close professional association but never see each other outside the office.
Some dislike one another personally and some co-workers may never actually get to know each other beyond general face recognition if their workplace is large or broken into isolated departments.
Your relationship with the deceased plays a big role in how you should carry yourself at the funeral or in whether you should attend. If you were close enough to the deceased to know their loved ones and have personal anecdotes, share them with the other bereaved. Amusing or inspirational memories can be a source of comfort. The easiest and most immediately evident way to show a respectful attitude is to dress appropriately, so make your wardrobe the first step to mastering basic funeral etiquette.
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